Invitations/Stationery
Stationery:
Give some thought to other stationery needs you may have in addition to ordering your wedding invitations:
 
Save the date cards:
If you are planning a wedding more than three months in advance, you might want to send out “Save the Date” cards so 
your guests can mark their calendars and aren’t caught off guard at the last minute.  You could use your Christmas
card/newsletter to make the announcement as well – saving you the extra postage for a separate mailing
Thank you Notes
If you order thank you notes with your new name or initials on them, don’t use those cards for gifts you receive before 
the wedding – that is not your name…yet.
You might want to order a box or two of thank you notes without any personalization for those gifts.  Only use the 
personalized ones for the notes you write after your marriage.
 
 
Invitations:
You can find books of invitations at most stationery stores, and there is usually a knowledgeable person who would 
be happy to help you. If you see the word “engraved” go on to another book.  Engraved invitations are much more
expensive.   Get price quotes for your favorites – then check the internet. 
You can save money by purchasing your invitations on-line.  Just search a few websites. Don’t order yet.  Wait a 
week or so while you check out other options. 

You will receive e-mails from the sites you searched offering you discounts of 10-20% off if you order from them.
 

You can save even more money by printing your own invitations. You can buy boxed sets of blank sheets (Wal-Mart, stationery stores, etc.) and set up the script yourself on your own computer.  There are also resources on-line that provide tips, kits, and boxed sets of do-it-yourself invitations; do a search for “print your own wedding invitations.” 

 
You can eliminate a lot of expense by dispensing with the extra envelope that stationers tell you is proper wedding 
etiquette.  You also don’t need to have lined envelopes. If you are enclosing maps, print them on the lightest weight
paper you can find. The extra paper just weighs the invitation down and will require you to add more postage.





If you are catering, you really want a good count so you need
people to RSVP. Enclosing a self-addressed, stamped 
envelope helps you get a better head count. Consider 
using postcards instead). Oversized envelopes will also
boost you up into a higher postage category.  Try to
keep your invitation within the $.42 cent stamp range.  
 
Invitations with ribbons are very pretty, but extremely 
      time consuming. You’ll rue the day you picked them  
      when the time comes to add those ribbons.
 
Be sure you proof read the invitations before they go to print.  I know a bride whose name was misspelled and the 
mistake wasn’t caught until after they went out (the guests were calling the bride’s mom asking for the correct spelling).
 The invitations should be hand addressed if possible.  That is something you can get your bridesmaids to help you 
with.  However, if you are not having a formal wedding, you don’t have to stick so closely to formal protocol.  I see
nothing wrong with printed labels – especially if they are done in a nice script that matches the script on the invitation
and if the label is clear, rather than white.  It is also a nice touch to have a special “love” stamp.  It doesn’t cost any
extra and it lets the recipient know there is something special inside that envelope.
 
Formal invitations, with inserts, usually require extra postage, so take a sample to the post office before you purchase 
your stamps to be sure you have the correct
postage. Don’t worry, they have “Love” stamps for the heavier invitations as well.
 
The wording for wedding invitations can be tricky because there are very specific rules.  This becomes even more 
complicated for LDS couples because the invitation is not to the ceremony, but the reception!
               
Here is some guidance for the wording of your invitations for your temple marriage:

Mr. and Mrs. Alan Park Johnson
or Jeri and Alan Johnson
(note that you don’t separate the man from his name.)
 Mrs. Jeri Smith (if divorced and the mother is remarried) and Mr. Alan Johnson
Mr. Alan Johnson (if the wife is deceased)
 
are pleased to announce 
(etiquette books will tell you that you don’t “announce” a wedding prior to the event.  You send out 
announcements on the day of or after the wedding.  However, LDS weddings don’t fall under that
rule because our invitations don’t invite everyone to a temple wedding.  We “announce” that the
wedding is forthcoming and they are invited to a reception or open house in honor of the couple.)
 
the forthcoming marriage of their daughter
 
Amy Elizabeth
to
Mr. Kyle Robert Jones 
son  of
Mr. and Mrs.Carl Jones 
or son of Mrs. Pamela Scott (if divorced) and Mr. Carl  Jones
 Saturday, the eighth of May
Two thousand eight
San Diego California Temple
  
You don’t have to include “son of.”  You can leave that out if there is a complicated relationship 
such as multiple “fathers” or “mothers”  as in cases where a step mom has raised the groom but
the birth mother still feels she’s the mom.
 
If the bride and groom are older and paying for their own wedding you don’t have to list either’s 
parents on the invitation.
 
If you have problems on one or both sides, you can avoid hurt feelings by saying,
 
                   Together with their parents
Miss Amy Elizabeth Johnson
and
Mr. Kyle Robert Jones
ate pleased to announce their forthcoming marriage
Saturday the eighth of May
Two thousand eight
San Diego California Temple

  
              Reception information can be on the invitation or on an enclosed card.
               If there are two receptions we suggest putting them on the invitation:
 
 
The pleasure of your company is requested
at the ring ceremony and reception
held in their honor
 
          The Johnson residence                          The Ivy Lane Reception Center
          Rancho Santa Fe, California                Ogden, Utah
          Saturday the eighth of May                   Saturday the fifteenth of May
          Six to ten o’clock                                     Four to seven o’clock         
 
To invite people to attend the temple Sealing, enclose a separate business card size enclosure saying: 
The honour of your presence is requested
at the sealing ordinance
eleven o’clock in the morning
San Diego California Temple
                               
Don’t put RSVP on the invitation! Bad etiquette!  If you need a head count, enclose a response card with a 
self-stamped envelope.
The favour of a reply is requested
before the twenty-fourth of April
M___________________________
accept______  regret _______
number attending _______
                               
Generally speaking, these are the rules:
 No periods at the end of a line.                                                                                              

It is optional to spell the following using the Anglican method of spelling. Either spelling is acceptable:    honor -or- honour         favor -or- favour

Use proper given names (for example – Jonathan not Jon; Kathleen not Kathy).

No abbreviations other than Mr., Mrs., Dr., and Jr.

First letter of each line is not capitalized, unless it is a proper noun (for example –    

       “Sunday the fifth of October” is correct. or “on Sunday the fifth of  October” is 

        correct).

Dates and times are written out (half after five o’clock, Two thousand eight).

The first word of the year is capitalized. (Two thousand eight)
When in doubt, your local stationery store will be happy to help you. 

Important Note:
 Do NOT include your registry information in your wedding invitations.  You can 
include a little card inviting people to view the web site you created (and have your
registries listed there).
Engagement Photos in your invitations:
If you want to enclose a photo in your invitation, be sure you start early.  You don’t have to have a 
professional photographer do it, but you can usually get your wedding photographer to throw it in for free. 
 When you are shopping for invitations, keep the photo in mind and how it will fit into the envelope.
 
By sending an engagement photo, this is your first chance to introduce your friends and family members 
to your other half.  Rather than shooting your photo in a studio, why not pick a place that reflects who
you are:  the beach, the mountains, a library, a barn, surrounded by your pets, playing your instruments,
on a ski lift, in any athletic arena (on a golf course, tennis courts, beach volleyball courts, soccer field…
you get the idea) or enjoying any hobby.  If you do choose the studio, you can still choose a picture that
illustrates your personality.  You might be playing around, laughing hard at an inside joke, making faces,
he may be carrying you, gazing at you lovingly, or swinging you around… the possibilities are endless. 
Just remember: your grandparents might expect something more traditional and it may be helpful to have
two sets of photos on hand: one that goes to your friends, and one that goes out to your parents business
associates!  Besides, there will come a time when you will be grateful to have the traditional photo!